Sunday, August 12, 2018

When New Normals Don’t Stay


Have there been times in your life when changes came at you too fast? At the pace of spit wads fired from the fifth grader in the back of the class.
Many of life’s changes are good ones, not even resembling spit wads.  But both welcomed and unwelcomed changes create a period of adjustment until they are rated as the ‘new normal.’ I find a certain comfort when the latest new change isn’t new anymore and I feel settled again.
Sometimes the changes come so rapidly, there isn’t time to settle in. I was reminded of this the last few weeks watching my daughter and her newborn baby. With babies, just when you’ve found your rhythm, they hit a growth spurt and change up the schedule.  About the time their swaddles and mittens are normal, they free their arms and legs and then onesies become the new normal.
Change is often caused by growth. Things change because we change. Stagnation is not a normal we want to stay in.
Change. Grow. Find your new normal.
It is cyclic.
Change. Grow. Find your new normal.
The other thing I know about change is it is the only thing that stays the same. Change is constant. Once we accept that changes are going to keep knocking on our door, we can get ready to open the door.
First look through the peephole and determine if you need to call the police. Some changes are meant to destroy us, so they just need to be sent away. Some changes I don’t let in and my weapon of choice is prayer because the effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. [James 5:16, NKJV]
If the change on the other side of your peephole is one you recognize as difficult but necessary, then gather your strength. I like to do that the same way King David did. But David found strength in the Lord. [1 Samuel 30:6, NIV] After you’ve gathered your strength, open the door and invite your change to sit down for supper and show it where you keep the guest towels.
If the change looks more like FTD delivering a fresh bouquet of flowers, put it in your prettiest vase and write a thank you note to the sender. Remember where your blessings come from and why you are blessed. And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need you will abound in every good work. [2 Cor 9:8, NIV]
Then there are seasons when the knocks on your door come in rapid succession like a stream of trick or treaters, a mix of cute and scary. In these seasons, we sometimes need to lighten our load to sustain our energy and reduce the momentum of the waves of change. We find Paul doing just that in a storm in Acts 27. And because we were exceedingly tempest-tossed, the next day they lightened the ship. On the third day we threw the ship’s tackle overboard with our own hands. [Acts 27:18-19, NKJV] That sounds like some serious load lightening! But wait, there’s more nine verses later on the 14th day of the storm. So when they had eaten enough, they lightened the ship and threw out the wheat into the sea. [Acts 17:38, NKJV] Wow! Now that is difficult re-prioritization! We can’t keep everything on our schedule because we must focus on the changes at hand.
Are you living through a change cycle that is so fast it is messing with your sense of normalcy right now?
It might be a non-stop stretch of bad news that is taking you to the breaking point.
It might be a truckload of blessings that are almost too much to handle at once.
It might be a health problem that throws a new symptom at you every few days.
It might be a new pace that requires you to speed up life or to slow it down.
Just hang on and know that a new normal will come. And then another. And another. Because new normals don’t stay.
What does stay is the anchor of our soul. We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure. [Heb 6:19, NIV]
Ask Him to go along with you the next time change knocks at your door.

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